Personally, I think you do have a great attitude about it all. I do agree with Sandi that maybe best not to be too aggressive, I guess, flirting without necessarily ending in what you want it to. \:\) But I know you've been working on that.

I agree about the expectations too, you've gone from zero to maybe 100 in a few days. Scary for anyone I think. But on the other hand, I think your W clearly has sex issues related to M that she needs to work on in IC. Hopefully she's getting an IC that knows a good bit about that? You shouldn't have to be on pins and needles and all for long-term or what is that. I mean sex between 2 married people should be fun and not such a big deal.

I guess this is just me, but if you want sex every day and she wants it once a week or whatever, did you ever discuss a compromise, say 2x or 3x a week? Maybe that's crazy of me to say, but you say you are best friends all the time so it doesn't seem so hard to work out a compromise. If she can't then I guess IC might be the answer or maybe even an MC that specializes in sex issues. Let the IC or MC kind of deal with those issues, and just enjoy each day together. Karen

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