It's important to not deny your emotions when going through this. That is a bit ahhh...MLCish. I agree, you don't want him this way, but if this is the way to a whole, healthy husband and father then perhaps it may be worth it to ride this out.
Only you can answer that. I'm not saying you should stop doing what your doing. Just continue to watch his actions. My ex was remorseful too. I made the mistake of jumping all over that on a few different occasions.
Is he remorseful? Yes. But, the kicker is that he probably called me right after he dropped off his little girlfriend. I just cannot wrap my head around the double life thing. Really, how can one live that way?
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
No you can't figure it out. Trying to rationalize the irrational is impossible. You don't ever want to be where he is mentally. It's a terrible place. He can't live that way forever.
It's sounds like he is on his way down. How far down does he have to go to hit bottom? Who knows? It can't last forever though, and we will never be able to imagine what it's like or figure it out.
You are absolutely correct. I can't even imagine being there. I'm so glad I was able to distance myself and my kids from it. He is spiraling around the drain, and I hope for my kid's sake that he can pull back up. Honestly, he's not as strong as I am. It's hard to watch.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
I know that feeling. stbxh called me last week and I laid him out. But I was in a funk for like three days after, and finally emailed him and told him not to call me anymore. Do I want him back? No. I'll never trust him again. But I still love him. I guess that will just take time.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Hi, Trapt, I just wanted to stop by and say hello; I'm back on the boards, and wanted to let you know I was thinking of you! Take care of yourself and those incredibly cute kids!
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
I received an email on Thursday from my ex. It was about choosing a school for my daughter. We spoke a little about this the day before and we pretty much agreed on where she will go.
My daughter is going to school with our daycare provider's daughters so it will work out well. They are involved quite a bit with the school and they are providing us will all of the information regarding enrollment.
In the email she asked to come over and drop the paperwork off and talk a little more about this. I didn't respond and I was off work on Friday so I don't know if she tried to email me again or not. There was really no point to my ex and the kids coming over to talk and drop off the paperwork. We have agreed and all I really have to do is pick up the paper work when I get the kids tomorrow.
It seems as though she wanted to come over for whatever reason. I'm not going to dwell on it. Since filing for the D my ex has made many comments and has acted like we will still be close after it was final. I have pretty much been dark, not taking all of her calls and only calling her back when it's absolutely called for. During our separation we had a lot of contact, now I have been as dark as possible and it seems like she may be starting to understand that things are not going to be like they were when we were separated.
