You have been very patient, Pup, but I am wondering if the decision not to D and then having great sex after such a "dry" period, did not set those "expectations" rolling in your mind. Then she kind of freaked out. Then there we go again, right?
Sandi,
I think you've hit the nail on the head, with a lot of what you said, but especially the above. My wife used the "e" word probably more than a dozen times in our conversations. I do struggle with how to be flirty during the day (which us men are supposed to do), and yet NOT have that put "expectations" on her. And remember, my wife is one who NEEDS to be flirted with, and validated, and so much wants to be thought of as sexy and attractive. But yet when I do that, I put expectations on her.
Arrrrgggggg!!!!!!
After spending a real nice day together yesterday, she pulled away again last nite. Fell asleep early (10:15) on the couch, was cool to me when we went to bed, and when she sat up in bed this morning to get ready to get up, I playfully grabbed the back of her t-shirt and forcefully tried to pull her back down into the bed. She said "No, stop -- I have to go to the bathroom, real bad!!!" and so I let her go. She stayed in there an awfully long time (my imagination tells me she was hoping I'd just get up while she was in there), and when she finally came out and I was still in bed, she asked me "are you getting up?" I said "No," and she did get back into bed, but immediately announced "my stomach is bothering me this morning."
