Thanks for dropping by, there is no need to feel as though you have let me down as I know you are very busy on these boards and lets face it there are others who need your help more than me.
I think I am now putting into practice your advice of where if I see W doing something wrong I call her out on it. This latest stuff with the co worker, would have probably left me fretting for ages on what to do, but I just told her I knew what was going on, and for a "big a**ed grown woman" she should know better. Then I left it up to her to sort it out. W actually put up a strong case to defend her position based on me invading her privacy, and her right to have male friends. But I just told her I wasn't interested and if she wanted to follow that route then I just wanted to talk about dividing assests and co parenting guidelines.
W has not given me any assurances about not contacting the co worker, but assurances or not I could never tell if she was telling me the truth anyway. But I guess as far as all that stuff is concerned the excitement is far less now that they have been exposed, also the OM knows that if our paths cross I'll have more a few words to say to him. W has not been on the computer since then but if to people want to talk there are always other methods. The bottom line here is the trust between us has not been restored (probably never has been).
So at the moment W wants to spend more time with me, in fact I get the impression she wants me to lavish her with all my time and 100% attention and in that time she wants me to treat her as a princess. Her birthday day being a point in case. She also says that to lead to intimacy I need to woo her more, I take that as another one of her stalling tatics but I go along with it for now. So we keep trying, I am looking to see how we break the cycle but in actual fact I'm sure that W keeps creating that cycle to keep our R at a certain point.
