Unfortunately when there has been a huge seperation in a relationship things will never be the same as they used to be.
You can't go back in time, you can only move forwards.
That is why you have to look at the old relationship as DEAD and the work needs to be done on the NEW relationship.
People change Ali.
This is a time of getting to know one another again.
Not necessarily a rekindling of old sparks.
He needs to learn to trust you again, and you need to learn how to trust him.
If you can try to lower your expectations and just take one day at a time.
I think you are excited, you have been at this for a long time but perhaps a little overly enthusiastic as to the reality of the situation.
Piecing sucks big time and it does take a good year or so for things to be somewhat normal again.
He obviously has feelings for you, but did he actually tell you that he is fully invested in you and wants to commit to making the relationship work?
I know my posts piss you off..... but just the very fact that the "Helen" thoughts are starting to surface shows me that you are not fully over his affair.
Forgiveness is the key to this, and letting the past go.
It doesn't happen overnight.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
