Ali, you have had some great advice. It is time for you to zip the lip. Listen to him and don't pressure him. Treat this with no expectations.(Pretend anyway) You seem to jump on his words.
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do you want a kiss then
this is pressure,showing your needs/expectations. Let him kiss you of his own volition. Like when he said he wasn't coming in you said
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- Oh, you're not? you dont want to?
He had already told you. More pressure. I could go on but I think you now know what you need to do. Remember this is not your boyfriend, this is still an x that has just left a relationship. Treat it like a new rel. Accept what he can give you right now, or not,but don't try to rush it. Yes he may be testing you, it is your choice if you want to be tested(I somehow think you want this to work tho-lol)
So get that "as if" attitude, maybe be not so available,not exactly turning him down but maybe alter the time he wants to meet as your busy. Listen to him but don't feel you have to rescue him or sort out his problems. Don't tell him that he doesn't always have to be in a good mood to see you. It smacks of desperation on your part. I know thats not how you intended it to sound.
Very early days, you are both feeling your ways. IF in doubt say nowt, maybe just a nod or smile. Use your mouth in proportion to your ears. I really get the feeling that he knew you would be expecting him to come straight back to you after Helen and he felt obligated to do that b/c he cares and didn't want to disappoint you. He just is not ready for a full on rel or talks or maybe much of anything right now. All your replies and body language (I am guessing) are showing him you expected him to just come home and life will go on as before. YOU are busy, so be busy with everything but him, that way you don't have to pretend. ((((())))
