LBS Need help and support #3

[K4D]

Song,

I am with Sandi2. Although I would add one thing. Do you have enough trust and faith in God to hand your W over to him and let him do the work while you step out of it? I think that is the hardest thing for any of us to do. But that is where your real faith and trust comes in. You know that you can't fix it. You know that the more you try, the more you kill things.

Look at it this way, the more you try, the more you interefere with what God's plan may be. At some point you have to walk away and entrust God to do what is best for you and her.

Song, I know you have read what others have posted to me. And I have been unwilling to let go. And do you see any change in my situation? No.

But I think I am starting to finally hit that point where I am letting it go. I have my own place now. And I cannot fix this. By pursuing, I am interferring with God fixing it to. And keep in mind that God is not going to stand in the way of free will. He can do things all around her. But its up to her to choose to see those things as leading her to where she should be back working on things with you.

But you my friend, are not going to convince her to change her mind if she has already made her decision by continually pursuing her.

Let it go. Walk away. Let God handle it. And that means you WALKING AWAY.

I should be a prime example to you of what does not work.

Check Jaguilar's thread. He is doing excellent. His W may not come back either. But she is noticing quite a bit his changes. And things could change for him because of that. She is taking notice that he is leaving her alone and doing things for himself.

You can do this. Don't write the letter. Go dark and become interesting to her by having your own life. Let her see it for herself. Don't try and show her. Let her figure it out. I'm not saying to hide it either. Just don't put it in front of her.

If anything is going to work, that will. And if it doesn't, you still have to wake up every day and live life. How do you want to live life? In misery or happiness? Only you can decide that for yourself. People here can tell you how to do it. But only you can choose to do it.

Kevin