Dear Song, I feel that I say about the same thing over and over, but yet I feel impressed to try one more time to tell you that you are still trying to fix this situation and you still have not given it over to God. Please don't be angry about that statement b/c based on what you have said to me in the past, I don't think you understand what I am talking about. It is not you being a good H and father. It is not praying to God about the stitch. It is you letting go of your wife and the marriage. It is you stopping all this thinking of ways to get her to go with you to workshops or get away for a weekend or whatever you think of next. Can't you see that you are the one that is still trying to fix what is broken? You must use "faith", Song.

You and I have talked a lot about God. If you "know" God and talk to God and have a little knowledge about what the Bible says, then you have to know that in a Christian's life there will be a time to use faith. Faith is letting go and depending totally upon God to take care of what needs taken care of. It is getting out of God's way and allowing Him to do His work. Sweetie, you just are not doing that. I really believe as long as Song tries to fix things that God is going to stand back and you will not see the results that you hope to see. Why? B/c God wants you to grow spiritually here and learn how to apply your faith. You say you "believe" in Him, but do you really? I'm not trying to see how sarcastic I can sound, but I'm trying to get you to "see", Song. If you truly believe what God says, then you have to prove it by giving Him the time and space to do His work. Time and space......sound familiar?

You said you had started listening to music. I read some lyrics and I wondered if that was what you needed to be listening to. You need to hear uplifting music. We all have our own personal taste in music and maybe I just wasn't "getting it". I do think that music affects our moods and spirit, so you need to hear something inspiring for you....not that gets you more depressed. Those are my words.....and not taken from anything you said.

As far as "signs" from God........I started to make some comments about that, but I saw how you reacted to another poster and the comments, so I stayed out of it. I realize that is a touchy subject for you. But, let me say this much......the Bible teaches us that "signs from God" is not for the mature Christian. Why? B/c the mature Christian will use faith, and signs is not faith. Faith cannot be seen or smelled or heard or even felt. Faith is just "knowing" and trusting and depending on what God has said in His Word.

Now, about you moving back in the home on Father's Day. I see the.......oh what's the word I am looking for here? Can't spell it! Anyway, I know that you have chosen Father's Day for a reason. AGAIN, SONG CHOSE THIS ACTION.....not God, but Song. So, have you discussed this with your wife, or were you planning to just show up with your things that Sunday and proceed to move in? That is not right, sweetie. Maybe I missed where you said you had discussed it with her, but by the way she has been treating you, I don't think she will be receptive to that one bit. I know all your arguments about standing for your M and the reasons behind your decisions. I am not disagreeing with "why" to stand for your M. I am saying that you are not going about it the right way and I am very concerned that you will continue to "push" and pursue until you will ruin everything and there will be no healing or reuniting of the M. I know that is not what you want to happen.

Therefore, I am pleading once more that you will back away.....drop that rope and give it all over to God. Please exercise your faith in Him and trust Him to do what is best. I think you are afaid to do that, Song. You are afaid that it will not turn out like you want it to.....if you leave it up to God. That is why you are constantly interfering with God's work and trying to make things happen the way you want it to. I can understand that. I have been in those situations myself. It can be scary. It will be scary until you can come to terms with the faith issue and finally hand it over to the One Who has the power. You have no power, Song. Right? You have no power outside of God. Let Him work. I can promise you this.....He will do nothing as long as you are trying to do it. Please don't prove me right. Show us the faith. Show God you do believe in Him for Who He is!

Love,
Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!