No, she shouldn't have done that obviously without checking with you first. Check your schedule, and if it doesn't work out, then too bad for her. If it does, maybe you could email her that, but suggest that she may want to check with you first next time before making those kind of plans, so if there's a conflict, it won't be a problem?
LS, yes what your W is saying is ! She maybe does believe that, or at least tries to tell herself and others that, so she won't have to feel the guilt and self-blame she would prob. feel if she was facing reality. I think time will take care of that: your children will get older and realize what she's saying is a crock of bull, and there's about a 99% chance that her affair will fail, and then that will make it even more obvious. Just continue being the truthful, dependable awesome role model you are being, and your kids will realize everything more as time goes on I think. Karen
! She maybe does believe that, or at least tries to tell herself and others that, so she won't have to feel the guilt and self-blame she would prob. feel if she was facing reality. I think time will take care of that: your children will get older and realize what she's saying is a crock of bull, and there's about a 99% chance that her affair will fail, and then that will make it even more obvious. Just continue being the truthful, dependable awesome role model you are being, and your kids will realize everything more as time goes on I think. Karen
