Thanks so much Snodderly, as always, yours advice is very real and pertinent, we are activating an access schedule in place this Wednesday, it is a real relief as we need to regulate things for our D's sake. I am working on becoming more and more DARK.........he already, because of the complete lack of contact, is existing in a particular place......I am trying to get out and see friends who have been incredibly supportive, working, getting some exercise, resting. Trying to find a good balance for myself...... Yes, I can only imagine what he has been saying about me to everyone, but especially his family. I would, at this stage, be the most reviled woman on the planet. But I am holding my head up high with dignity Thanks once again Take care of yourself too!