as weve said ad nauseum - you can only change you, not him. i know sometimes being mean is just testing you, and if you are mean back then he can justify in his mind why he left you. however, this situation appears way beyond that. why would you even want this person, anyway? it didnt sound like the marriage was that great anyway. maybe you are not in love with him, but in love with the concept of being in love and haveing a family, which didnt exist up to now, and from the way this loser sounds, could never exist in the future.
