Newly separated...spouse left, 4th thread

[antlers]

Hi Sandi,

I appreciate your input regardless. I am sincere in what I said, and I feel bad about it. It was an opportunity for me to be thoughtful and giving, and I wasn't even thinking about it. This separation and troubles has me not thinking clearly sometimes, and this was one of those times. I knew it was Mother's Day and that the kids would be going over there later on. I really wish I had let them spend the night with her, or take them over there that morning. She picked them up that evening.

I will learn from this. Our birthdays are on the same day, so I had them half of the day and she had them half of the day. Things are just so messed up because we are living apart. These other holidays that she mentions haven't happened yet. I'm gonna let them go with her on Memorial Day weekend.

I will try to use more forethought on things like this. We split our birthday time with them. I honestly will work with her on the holidays and special occasions, and hopefully I can think more clearly in the future on stuff like this.

I'm willing to have 'give and take' where 'special days' are concerned. Since I wasn't thinking, I do wish that she had mentioned it...and I would heve been glad to accomodate her. I wish I hadn't messed up on this.

I'll make sure next time works better.


Thanks Sandi.

antlers