Hi BH, Sorry you find yourself here. I agree with Dawn that I would go with the DB coach's advice if saving your marriage is your goal. Think about what you are comfortable with on 5/25. Do you want to spend the whole day with H? Will you be able to DB all day considering he just spent 3 days with the OW? If not, consider your desires and what would make the day the happiest for YOU. Maybe plan to spend part of the day together with some structure(lunch/movie/park.whatever) with some but not too much unstructured time... If H is in MLC this is a long process so don't expect immediate success. Hope for small successes, show your positive changes with consistency(don't tell H about them)and have NO epectations (so you won't be disappointed or show disappointment). Keep track of what brings H closer vs what pushes him away..Validate..Stay positive!
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
