Hi orchid, Sorry you are here and are struggling so. Been there, done that what you are going through. Many of us have & know what you are feeling. The beginning is the worst part in all of this. It will get better. At one point I didn't call, email or talk to my H for 65 days. It does hurt less and you do get stronger. Finding that happy person you once were again. I went to the library & checked out tons of books to read. To learn about myself and about M. For me, parents D when I was 3 - I had no clue what a good M was & I never read about R or M as an adult. Since, then, I have learned so much about myself - which I guess, was a goal I had, to becoming a better Me.

Many of the questions you pose, fairy tale M, children, what you want out of life, I find myself struggling with as well. The "what do I want" question. Still don't know the answer to any of that - but I am dealing with it.

One vegetarian meal I like to make, which then turns into 2 is making stuffed shells & then using the stuffed part (spinach, cottage cheese, mashed up tofu & onions) & then making enchiladas out of them, (adding sour cream) with monteray jack type cheese instead of mozzarella. Very tasty & the stuffed part can be frozen as well.

Are there any organizations you are interested in? Maybe to volunteer & meet pep?

Stay strong & keep that PMA going! \:\)


Me39, XH45
Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats
Divorced 6/4/09
Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)