I just wanted to say you are doing great! I think you should definately go to meet some new girls/people. Just make yourself go. Wear something pretty ......and wearing heels always helps me feel better.
I only say this, bc I had an opportunity @ 6 days after he served me the D papers. And....well, I went and met with people and I just glossed over the H sitch. I ended up playing charades for the first time in my life and found out that I was good at it!!! I couldn't believe it! I always have been afraid of playing charades. I thought, I cannot look this silly in front of others.
So you never know...if nothing else you can hear about these girl's lives and see if you can find something you might want to implement or .....you might just get an new idea...or get a new style tip. The worst is that you do not like these people you meet and well, you have a story to tell us! HA!!
Have a great time! Let us know how it goes.
About the H sitch....I have a friend who is a psychologist who I have been speaking to twice a week. She says if you cannot decide, do not do anything at all.
She has told me to know what I want from each conversation/contact I have with him. Do you want formal but friendly? Do you want him to feel as if you can only get the computer fixed if he does it....and that too, when he gets around to it? I think that is the reason we are supposed to not answer their phone calls or emails right away. It is not about their time line. Does that make sense?
It is so hard .....bc you just want any contact you could possibly have........and as you know, I have not conquored this yet either. Its a work in progress.
Do you know what the problem is with your computer? Can you look it up online or call GeekSquad to come and fix it? Do you know anyone at work or a family member or a neighbor who would be able to walk you thru some troubleshooting?
The other thing that she had said to me on the very first day is that the H I knew is gone....this is someone else and so you cannot react to this H - the way you used to with the old H. The old H - you would give and understand and love......this new H is giving you alot of new rules....its a NEW give and understanding and love you have to administer....the long term goal is both of your happiness......H needs this as much as you do. I do keep telling myself that today.
But, damn its hard, I know it. I just thought I would share what she told me. It got me thru my first week and I set up a lot of parameters with him then. Of course, I have had no contact with my H, but I am thinking that is a good thing. If in the end, H decides to go, its not going to be a phone call about superficial things that makes him stay!
Also another thing that I read somewhere, I think pearlharbr mentioned this, that if you do interact with H, you should speak to him as you would a neighbor...not exactly formal.....more relaxed than that. I really liked that!
Have a great rest of the day. I am excited to hear about your evening!
