Why do the expect him to do the yardwork and such? If he's out, he's out. Finito, the end. Of course, I'm one to talk, my xh still comes and cuts my grass and cleans out my gutters and I let him. I appreciate it since I work two jobs and get no support so I think I justify it that way.
I'm just curious why they would think it's his duty.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I think they expect him to do it because I rented such a big house, based on the fact that he was going to be here to help take care of things--You, know, when he told me he was going to work on pur M right after the bomb.
His parents think he should move home, anyway, so I guess their perspective is skewed.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I need to post about our day at the amusement park, but I am beat. Suffice to say, we spent 14 hours together today and no one is dead. I consider that a good day!
I will try to post tomorrow. I will have a three day reprieve while the ship pulls out. I need it.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Friday, DH got here around 4-4:30. I had already decided to order pizza for dinner, since the kids and I go to a relate group/bible study on the first and third Friday of the month. When I mentioned ordering pizza, DH offered to go pick something up for dinner. I told him that it was okay, as I had already ordered the pizza online.
So, another family dinner. S3 was staying home with D17 instead of going to relate group. I changed my shirt to go to group--I had gotten sauce on the one I had on while cleaning up S3. When I came out of the bedroom to put my shoes on, D6 says "Mommy you are hot." DH kind of chuckled and told her she was a nut. Of course, he did not agree or disagree with her--either might mean he noticed.
I bent over to put on my shoes and my shirt was a little low cut--Yes, Phoenixdeux, I bent over right in front of him. When I stood up, I thought he looked away quickly. i hope he got a good eyeful!
As I gathered my purse and keys, I asked would he be here when we got home around 9-9:30. He said sure. I wasn't inviting, just asking for my one benefit of knowing whether or not he would be here. Earlier, D9 asked him if he was staying over so we could get an early start to go to the park. I did not here his answer. D9 later told me he said no, we could pick him up from SIL's as we had to drive right past it to go to the park. I am fairly certain he declined to stay because of my comment back in April about how I did not want him staying here as it was not good for the kids. If he had said yes, his options were going to be the sofa or our room--D9's counselor said to not let him sleep in her room and there is no spare bed in any of the other rooms. I am sure that would have sent him back to SIL's real quick!
He ended up leaving around 10-10:30. He had put S3 to bed while I was gone. I mentioned that I was getting the kids bagels for breakfast and asked him did he want his favorite kind. He said oh, yeah, that would be great thanks. Said he would see us in the morning and to call when we were on the way, that he would give me different directions to SIL's that are faster.
So that was Friday.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
All of our and his old friends know. He has since cut himself off from them--or they have chosen not to have anything to do with him. He says he told the chief he was hanging out with on deployment--the one I met via the internet a few years ago. I have not talked to him since before deployment, so I do not know if that is true. I will be honest, I am hesitant to email him and ask.
No, the command does not know. I do struggle with not exposing him. However, since I do not have a job, have four children that I am responsible for, and I know the command will at minimum cut his pay for a period of time and possibly put him on restriction, at maximum bust him in rank and put him out, that would be cutting off my nose to spite my face. I will not go back to work before I finish school AND S3 is at least in kindergarten. That will be another 2 years.
I have considered floating a "what if" scenario past the ombudsman to see what the command would do for sure if he was exposed. DH does know if he files, I will expose him to the command and he and OW will be served at work.
He is opening up more to me--he is not as tense around me, tells me more about what he is doing--re-enrolling in college, work issues--and we can actually have a decent conversation. Yes, of course I want more.
I have to do things the way I feel God is leading me to do it. This is it right now and it is what it is. Some days are really good and some days suck moose snot. But, even the bad days are better when I take it to the Lord and allow Him to be Sovereign. He is God, I am not.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I have to do things the way I feel God is leading me to do it. This is it right now and it is what it is. Some days are really good and some days suck moose snot. But, even the bad days are better when I take it to the Lord and allow Him to be Sovereign. He is God, I am not.
Amen, SMW! Amen!
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
This is from Mat Kearney's new album that was just released yesterday called City of Black & White. Awesome songs about restoration and reconciliation!
Closer To Love She got the call today One out of the gray And when the smoke cleared It took her breath away She said she didn't believe It could happen to me I guess we're all one phone call from our knees We're gonna get there soon
If every building falls And all the stars fade We'll still be singing this song The one they can't take away I'm gonna get there soon She's gonna be there too Cryin' in her room Prayin' Lord come through We're gonna get there soon
Oh it's your light Oh it's your way Pull me out of the dark Just to show me the way Cryin out now From so far away You pull me closer to love Closer to love
Meet me once again Down off Lake Michigan Where we could feel the storm blowin Down with the wind And don't apologize For all the tears you've cried You've been way too strong now for all your life
I'm gonna get there soon You're gonna be there too Cryin' in your room Prayin' Lord come through We're gonna get there soon
Oh it's your light Oh it's your way Pull me out of the dark Just to show me the way Cryin out now From so far away You pull me closer to love Closer to love
Cause you are all that I've waited for All of my life (We're gonna get there) You are all that I've waited for All of my life
You pull me closer to love hu huuh Closer to love hu huuuh Pull me closer to love You pull me closer to love Closer to love oh no Closer to love Closer to love
Pull me closer to love
Praising God Daily, Remaining "FaithfulH" Me: 62 W: 62 D:33 S:30 & 31 Married: 40 Years BD: Sep 2006 Piecing: May 2007 2nd BD: May 2014 Working On It: Today
just wanting to say you are blessed, and we are blessed to have such a wonderful woman in Christ on our "team"! you are awesome!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
