Another newcomer - already finding help

[JKL2009]

Well, I have had my first major setback. Last night, after having a few drinks and what I thought was a decent enough night with my WAW, I saw she had left her work laptop open and her email up. I read some massages and was shocked to see that she had not been at work that afternoon, but rather had hooked up and got intimate with a co-worker. I was devastated. I knew I should not have snooped, and I knew I should not have said anything to her, but I did.

I just asked her to be honest and tell me what was going on. I told her I understand I have pushed her away and made her seek others out. But of course she didn't want to admit anything. She hinted at the fact that she was not happy with herself and some decisions she has made, but the conversation didn't go very far and she was (of course) upset with me snooping.

This is a major setback, and one that shouldn't have happened if I had stuck to advice here. But I got weak. Now, probably have added a few more nails in my marriage's coffin.