So everytime you feel that she is trying to 'help' you organize your life, look her in the eyes and just say (kindly), 'Don't worry, W, I can do this. I've got it covered. We are doing just fine.'
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09