Mark, stop kicking yourself. The more you kick yourself, the more people want to kick you. Do you remember movies about bullies and the people they pick on?
That is why everyone is asking you to 'man up', put more confidence forward. Because if you did that, she would sense that she can't get away with it anymore and would stop.
But if you give out the vibe that, yes, you are right in kicking me, she feels justified.
So stop it.
Now, that doesn't mean do the COMPLETE opposite and pick a fight with her, you did that remember and it didn't work.
What you CAN do is say, 'Don't worry, I've got it covered. You don't have to worry about me anymore.'
This way, she can LET GO. You show that you are confident and she doesn't need to keep thinking about how to put order in your life.
See the difference?
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
