Maybe its a gender issue;maybe it is that women need to talk more than men.I kept the affair quiet for a year and a half, endured H shutting down on me and `not knowing whether he loved me or not` until he reared up on me and threatented to punch me, all within earshot of the children. I needed the support of family then and two trusted friends then if only to know that I wasn`t going crazy.
With saying that, H has spoken at length to his family about our issues. And I`m okay with that because I believe that he`ll get support there. He doesn`t have any close friends to confide in.
A big problem in terms of `everyone knowing` is that he had a fling with a work colleague which a lot of his work colleagues know about. So if there`s anything out there in the community about his behaviour its coming from his indiscretion in the first place.
I`m rowing back from talking about it at this point only to spare my family/friends from being bored to death with my woes. to help me refocus on everything else wonderful in my life and not to get caught in a cycle of self pity.
