SMW is right..... but don't let your mind try to work this out. Just let your mind lead you back to God. Let God lead the rest of the way.
Alpha men of God:
Moses Abraham Isaac Jacob Joseph Solomon David......
Jesus Peter Paul ....etc Puppy
Pretty good company. I get your point.
God blessed me with a pretty good mind, and it can be both a blessing and a course. I have GOT to remain prayerful thru this, and I have done so every day. Today was the hardest; I normally pray first thing in the morning but it was probably 5pm today before I hit my knees. I'm afraid today's was little more than "God, I'm so discouraged, I'm having a bad day. Please show me the way." Man, I felt like Jimmy Stewart in "It's a Wonderful Life!" LOL
But He was faithful, and I felt helped tonite, for sure.
God blessed me with a pretty good mind, and it can be both a blessing and a course. I have GOT to remain prayerful thru this, and I have done so every day. Today was the hardest; I normally pray first thing in the morning but it was probably 5pm today before I hit my knees. I'm afraid today's was little more than "God, I'm so discouraged, I'm having a bad day. Please show me the way." Man, I felt like Jimmy Stewart in "It's a Wonderful Life!" LOL
But He was faithful, and I felt helped tonite, for sure.
Puppy
Your a good man, Pup!
As everyone knows, I am NOT a religeous person in the traditional sense, but I do consider myself a spiritual one and I absolutely believe that no man is an island, and the greatest of men are those that realize this.
And if you get a chance to make stop over at my "new" thread, I think you might be a little proud of me....I think I've found a little of that backbone again finally!!!
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
Thank you, all! What a great group of people we have on here.
I am blessed.
Last nite, I decided to NOT fall asleep on the couches like we normally do, and reversed roles on my wife and announced "OK (wife), I'm going to bed. You coming with me?" She laughed, got up, and said dramatically "See?? And what am I doing, that's not so hard??" (she meant she actually GOT UP), LOL.
We went to bed (no sex), and I had a great night's sleep. I got up this morning, made the coffee, spruced myself up a smidge, and crawled back in bed with her, admonishing myself in my mind "NO EXPECTATIONS, PUP!" I teased her to get up, spooned her for a bit (which she seemed to like), and scratched her back. I could feel her tense up as if to think "Oh god, here we go, right after a night of discussing 'no expectations,'" and for that reason I decided to make sure this was just a non-sexual touching exercise and see where it goes. She enjoyed the backscratch, hinted like it was time to get up, and before I could let her leave ME, I made sure to initiate a playful PUSH out of the bed, with a "C'mon, lazybones, get up!" -- and I got up myself.
Not sure if this was the right play or not, but it felt right.
We're going to spend the day bathing suit shopping (I gave her a g/c for Mother's Day, and if you remember she said she wanted me to go shopping with her, and she would model them for me! ). Then we're having D22 and D20 here for dinner, so the whole family will be together for dinner for the first time in ages.
When we were talking out back last nite, I did assert myself and make a specific request of her. I said there was something she could do that would really help me, and that when we were sending each other flirty text messages earlier in the week, and she fell asleep on the couch and after two nights in a row of poor sleep for her, I let her sleep, that if she would just ACKNOWLEDGE it somehow the next day. Maybe send me a text saying "Hey, thanks for letting me sleep -- how about a raincheck?" or something, to let me know she was still thinking about me, that that would help me stop the negative cycle.
It's needy and supplicating, almost by definition, but I'm thinking the need to assert ourselves sexually and better express our needs might be more important.
In any event, I'm going to try to initiate tonite and/or tomorrow, and am going to make sure to do it forcefully and playfully, and if I get rejected, it's going to be more of a "hey, your loss hotcheeks!" thing.
Yes. There is a specific counselor that her friend had recommended, that she (my wife) actually asked ME if she could see a couple of months ago. At the time, I didn't feel like we could afford it. Now, I don't think we can afford NOT to.
Her client friend is out of town, but will be back this week, and my wife is going to ask her for the name and # again. She seems genuinely interested in getting the counseling.
