did you ask him to leave or did he just finally decide to go?
He left on his own. I think it's what had to happen regardless.
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I'm wondering if the odds of having the chance to create new M change with full separation versus in-home separation.
For me, what I believe now, is that we wouldn't have any chance if he had stayed. Not b/c of him, but b/c of me. I was too stuck and tiptoeing around on those eggshells was exhasuting. I didn't realize how much so till he'd been go awhile. I would say it's taken me alot longer to detach (and still struggle on the rare occasion) b/c he comes here to visit girls once a week. No, they don't go stay with him.
Great job on the weight and exercising! All of it really. And yes, I know he's part of the motivation (and would have carded you on it), but don't let that take away from the acheivements. Just make sure they are changes
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want. That he might like and appreciate them on some level can just float out there for now.
