See it's his weekend and he doesn't want to take her to his parents house and I'm sure he'll want to stay at our house with her overnight. He'll tell me that I can go out and he'll just watch TV.
While I won't pretend to know what's best for you, I will say that having him come into your home (the house may belong to both of you, but it's your home) on his weekends will at first seem like a way to keep an open connection and of course it's good for your D right? If there's one thing I do have experience with it's having an H that comes to my home to "visit" D's. Looking back, I would probably do it the same, but every sitch is different. Has it helped me? No. Has it helped my D's? D14 specifically, yes. D16 don't think it matters much either way.
I'm about to the point where it needs to stop regardless of D14 (unless her C has stong opinions to the contrary).
I wish I could say something that would make that crazy feeling stop even for a second.
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Pastor was actually D himself about 26 years ago. His X had an affair and he filed. I wonder if that is why he's so adament on me not including him in our lives for anything ??
Of course his own experiences color how he sees things. That's just what it is to be human. Don't you think this experience (regardless of the outcome) will change how you see things? If you find his guidance helpful by all means use it. Pardon the pun, but don't take everything he says on faith. You have to think too. God helps those...
I hope you do find some peace and some sleep tonight.
