Hi Dave, I've had computer problems again and been kind of out of touch. So, been catching up on the stitch and read the post about the "key" situation. I know you thought that the long conversation you had with her was a positive outcome based on the way she conducted herself when you all met later. However, I personally think that is she still was not turning over the key to your condo......she was very much in control of things and you really did not accomplish much by your long talk to her. Haven't you said the same thing to her in the past? Did you say anything this time that you had not said before? I don't want to make you angry by saying this and I don't know how to word it without sounding rather harsh or critical, but what you had to say (even though it was good and truthful and you felt better afterwards) seemed very long to me and if she has heard it before......I think repeating it does not help your stitch. It may temporarily help "your" feelings....but she did not and still has not given you a key. She only acted half way civil to you and you were grabbing at the crumbs she threw your way. I would strongly suggest that you not give her any more of your "talks" b/c she will see them more like "lectures" from you. That is the mind of a WAW speaking.

She sounds strong willed, stubborn, and certainly wants to be the one in charge of things. Therefore, maybe she needs to see a man who is much stronger in ways that will be attractive to her. I understand compassion and patient, etc. However, it may be time to consider the tough love road. If not, she will walk all over you and leave you with as little as possible.

Sandi


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!