Setting Boundaries for MLC Alien H

[In Limbo]

Grace,
Would you mind telling me - did you ask him to leave or did he just finally decide to go?

I'm wondering if the odds of having the chance to create new M change with full separation versus in-home separation.

It's a tough evening as I'm at home while H is out. It's been a long work week and I'm just exhausted. Did have a fun night last night though. Went to a blues bar with some co-workers and it was a lot of fun. Haven't told H. Not hiding it, it just hasn't come up and I'm not sure it needs to.

I am working on several changes. They are for me, but I'd be lying if I said theyr'e not in hopes of attracting H as well. But I will continue them regardless of what happens with H. I'm continuing to lose weight (40 lbs now!), exercising, listening more, engaging friends more, taking advantage of opportunities to go have fun (like blues bar), not criticizing H, doing a better job keeping house tidied, reading and studying meaningful books (many self-help, some inspirational), setting goals and following up, etc......

Tomorrow night he'll be out as well at a formal black tie party and he's working tomorrow and Sunday. So, I need to get some GAL stuff going before I lose my mind. Tomorrow I'll take the boys to the Y. I'll work out and then let them swim. Tomorrow night we'll do a movie, bowling or something. I may also call a friend across town whose sons were their best friends before we moved. She's just had a baby and we need to go visit them. So that will take care of tomorrow and tomorrow night.