Interesting story. I do have a very strong and bossy attitude. It did not come out until he repeatedly failed to keep promises and would forget things. He would conveniently remember all sorts of things that other people needed him to do that he liked to do or he thought he would like to do until he had to do them and then he was home complaining to us about them, but still putting those things in front of the job/role he had in the house. I worked the full time job and he was to be the househusband. Which was great for him in that he ended up rarely doing anything or halfway doing it.
I really don't think going any farther into my situation is going to change the realization of what it is I need to do. I can no longer be a mother to this man. I didn't want the job to begin with and I refuse to do it any further. I have to let him go because a relationship with him is not good for me nor is it good for him. I doubt seriously that me leaving will cause any changes to be made in him and for me to even contemplate a relationship with him would require years of therapy, trust rebuilding, him working and being responsible, and the realization is that he will never be grown up enough to accept that. I will be filing and moving on with my life because it is the only sane thing to do. Letting him back in now would be damaging to my children and I refuse to hurt them any more. Is it possible that with time he will change? I can't say never, but I can say that he has tried to change for so long and hasn't been successful. He refuses to seek therapy and treat his depression. Until he himself can admit his faults in his relationships he will never grow up. I wish him happiness, but I can't wait around on a hope.
"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."
