True Love or True Fog? Changing Forums

[Silver Fox]

First thing out of his mouth - "This isn't going to be as easy as I thought". I almost had to stifle a laugh. Really H? I'm shocked - everyone else has such an easy life - I can't believe you have it so hard. No, I didn't say this out loud.

I was able to use most of my responses from my previous post. He said the bankruptcy L explained that even if he took all the marital debt, we couldn't get my name off the credit cards. H was so counting on declaring. It was going to be his "easy" way out. I guess he thought you could just sign on the dotted line and that would be it - all debt and all troubles would go away.

He said it was a good thing that I've saved enough money to get us through the summer. Us?! I had to tell him that the savings was for bills/living expenses and he could not use our marital assets any longer for his trips to OW. He said "Oh, I see" (like, oh, you're going to play dirty now are you).

It was really difficult to watch. He really is hitting rock bottom now. He cried some, cut the grass, and when he came back in he had a brilliant plan to withdraw money from his retirement fund because "How can I get a job and work on the house at the same time? Where will I live?" (how will I be able to keep my OW?)

He asked about the house appraisal - why didn't I tell him about the appointment? I could have at least let him cut the grass. I said "Let? I'm here, the house is here, the grass is always growing". He lost it saying "I can do without your snide remarks!!" Wow, and I was doing so well up to that point.

When I said in as calm a voice as possible "I'm sorry you're having such a difficult time, please try to relax". I swear to God he said again "It's just not so EASY!"