I'm sorry your day was so yucky. Skip the self-help section for now, and get the book I recommended this morning: Eat, Pray, Love. Seriously.
Know that you're gonna be OK. People who've been at this for awhile will tell you that you come here to save your marriage and you end up saving yourself. It's true. It's OK to cry and hurt. It's part of the process. Wish I could give you a hug.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence