K, What is it that drives him at work? Extra money? Passion for what he does? Just addicted to it?
He's more comfortable with routine and you are more impulsive. Can you research this and find a happy balance between the two opposites where you can respect his needs and he can add some spice to the structure? Some sort of happy structured chaos? If you give him what he wants chances are he will do likewise. That way you are not settling but giving to each other. If you hold out for what you want and he does likewise you'll be in the Lonely Beavers Club for the next hundred years.
