I have to agree with the NC, but it is from personal experience. I told my H not to contact me at all. And it is not because I don't love him, or miss him. It was because talking to him was killing me. I am not willing to continue to put myself in the middle of HIS mess.

It's about saving yourself a little bit. It is hard, but I have to tell you I have felt relief at realizing I do not look at the phone every time it rings to see if H is calling. Will he ever call? I don't know. But it has enabled me to get a little bit of a firmer grasp on myself.

Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..