I'm not even sure how I got to this link but it disturbs me. So many of the traits are similar in her actions and the relationship; subtle but there.
Overall the tone of the relationship is like: 1. If I'm not happy then nobody's happy...and I'm not happy. 2. You're never good enough 3. You're always wrong / I'm always right. "I know best." 4. You always screw up. And I'll remind you of it.
We don't have the "Contant Chaos" and maybe just a little of the "Unpredictability" mentioned in the article but the rest of it fits including my loss of self-esteem and depression
I'm trying to figure out where the line is between:
2. She's a WAW and they do this AND/OR she's lost respect for me.
3. I'm Mr. Nice guy (but less since d'bing)
4. She is emotionally abusive.
She admitted right at the bomb that the relation was hindering both of us and that's why she want to end it - for her and me. It wasn't always like this. We used to be very equal, respectful, and loving. I knew she was a strong person when we got married (and on her way to law school) but it's like it just got worse over time and she got mean.
My past was fairly stable (sometimes some anger from above). I think her past was OK but her family has always had a lot of drama - there's always a crisis. Currently one member has problem with drinking but I don't think it was like that when she was growing up.
Things are getting better but I don't know...I read this and just was taken aback. I don't know what to think.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
