CIPA, When you are around her be the best CIPA for yourself. When you are apart DB - GAL, be mysterious and take care of yourself.
Right now you are DBing if things turn the corner you will change your approach.

VD is telling you to self-validate, be your own man, make yourself happy, and that you are complete person on your own.

M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12
Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.