I think you may be over thinking this. Right now she doesn't want you, would you go after someone who doesn't want you if you hadn't been married to that person?

The thing with with DB is also to be happy with yourself wo/having to rely on anyone else. That's where you need to be. Trust me I've been where you are my W is going to file after two years of S if I hadn't worked on me I'd be a wreck right now. While I'm not happy about it I know everything is going to be fine because I'm fine with myself.

Also at some point the Dim/Dark, you actually need to be that way because you ARE busy not just acting.

Me:40
W: 39
T: 17 years
M: 15 years
S-9
D-6
D final 11/10/2009

"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."