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[LitlHopeAlwys]

She is doing what the majority of the people on this board wish their spouses would do and that is pursuit you a bit. Then she remembers that she is supposed to be divorcing you and gets mad at herself and pulls back and gets nasty. Rinse and repeat. You will hear this by more than one poster. We want what we cannot have. If she feels like you are pulling away she pulls you back. When you pull her she pulls away. Nasty cycle, but it is how it goes. Stop pursuing. Let her come to you. She knows you don't want a divorce. You have made it plainly clear. Continue your changes and be the best you possible. She will notice. Enjoy the rollercoaster. LOL

Thanks goingtofixME.
I don't understand why would we want the WAS "doing what the majority of the people on this board wish their spouses would do and that is pursuit you a bit." It only hurts more and makes it really difficult for me to control my emotions.
I understand that we always want what we cannot have, but she has made it plainly clear in no other words but hers "Face it, we are getting a divorce." Why would she want to pull me back in? From the little communication between us, she seems like she is on a one track mind and full speed ahead.
I have stopped pursuing, despite a few slips here and there, that hopefully now I've learned from my mistakes (many thanks to the people here), and I'm continuing to work on me and trying to keep PMA and hoping that she sees that I am capable of and determined to change.

So the W called me again this morning at work(3 days in a row now) - I answered this time. She asked where I wanted to take S3 sat night, so i told her to a baseball game and immediately got a with who? Told her I wasn't sure yet. End of conversation, I told her I had to get back to work. Still waiting to hear from her if she will let me bring S3 to baseball game tomorrow night.

PS- I was never really a rollercoaster fan - and now even less then before.