bnd why do I want to speak with this man? He has done so much to me. Why in the world can I not just say so long and not want to speak to him again. Why do I miss him so much. I have good days for days then bam I want to hear his voice. Is it pathetic to think....he can marry her and she can have him, if only he would communicate with me?
I think he is doing the best thing for you and himself by not keeping in contact. A similar no contact was done with my parents when they divorced when I was 17 and it worked out very well for them. If my kids were 18 now, I would be so happy to not have to speak with my XW but once in a blue moon.
Think about it...if he were to have conversations with you every few days, you would never reach detachment and independence from him. Going cold turkey on contact is best IMHO.
Your task for this summer is to have fun with your son, nephew and yourself and to not think much about H or starting any new relationship.
Kerry I dont want contact every few days. I want to speak with him maybe once a month or so. He also wanted this until gf put her foot down. REALLY once every week is WAY too much for me.
my daughter missed school today because of the drama he caused yesterday...sorry Renee to post in your thread...saw BND was in here....again I am sorry.....will email you later....BND he hasnt even called her to check on her...I have had to be so strong and in prayer....everything in me has wanted to text him...email him and tell him off...but right now he could care less about her....He told my sister because she drove by where all this took place picked up my daughter...and he told my sister...I dont know what Irma is telling Becca...but I AM NEVER COMING BACK TO IRMA.......that cut like a knife....but I am being still......very hard to do .......
When my stbxh first left and people would tell me things, I would shock them and say "Oh yes, I knew that." They thought they would get a reaction out of me but I didn't let them.
Is this weekend the birthday party for your nephew?
No, we already had the party. He got rock band for Wii and we have been playing it, its so much fun.
Good, gives you something to do together and have fun.
It allowed them to move on with their own lives. They both remarried and are still married to this day. My mom married her affair partner and is still deeply in love.
My parents dont speak with each other, although they have spoken briefly on a couple occasions in the last 30 years when they were at the same location, but they dont need or want any contact.
Say what you want about your H's new wife, but I cant blame her for wanting her H to have no baggage from his prior marriage.
Kerry I dont want contact every few days. I want to speak with him maybe once a month or so. He also wanted this until gf put her foot down. REALLY once every week is WAY too much for me.
Renee you could not handle being able to have a civil normal conversation with this Man, at this time.
He would offer you 5 minutes and you would want 10.
What is there to talk about?
You sound like an addict that needs their fix.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
I have to agree with the NC, but it is from personal experience. I told my H not to contact me at all. And it is not because I don't love him, or miss him. It was because talking to him was killing me. I am not willing to continue to put myself in the middle of HIS mess.
It's about saving yourself a little bit. It is hard, but I have to tell you I have felt relief at realizing I do not look at the phone every time it rings to see if H is calling. Will he ever call? I don't know. But it has enabled me to get a little bit of a firmer grasp on myself.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
