WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 8

[MrBond]

"I guess that's part of the verbal jujitsu that was discussed here a while ago."

Correct. Or at the very least when she goes into a negative way of thinking, just let her get it out and don't contribute.

"Right now I'm trying to rediscover the me that she had fallen in love with - warm, fun loving, confident, caring and worry-free. That's how I've been trying to be."

Exactly! Be who YOU want to be. In your earlier posts it was all about how you should act around her. Just be yourself. Or be the person you WANT to be.

Your friend's husband hasn't learned to detach. As you know from DB, that's the first thing you have to do. You can see the result of not doing so from your friend's reaction. If you want to help your friend's H, then tell him to drop the rope.