Hello, sorry to find you here... I would say that once the lease is up, you consider renting something back home. Two hours is far, but not that far. What you will need to think about is where you are getting your support. Does your H take lots of trips for his job? I know almost nothing about the military but my BIL is Air Force and he does "TDY" a lot...
Anyway my point is if your H is not going to be around a lot then it might be good for you to be back home where you have support. Even with my husband in the same town (we are separated), he travels a lot for work and I have the kids the bulk of the time. It is nice to have grandparents here to help me with the kids when I need support. So I imagine you would like that kind of support, too. If you rented back home vs. buying, you would also be able to move back if you decided that is what you wanted down the road.
With him being in the military, do you guys move very often? The reason I ask is because that is something to think about. Have you talked about it? For example, if you are separated, and he gets transferred, does he think that you and the kids will move, too? Would you? Or would you rather have a 'home base' back in your home town?
Lots to think about, I hope I haven't given you too many questions. I would say continue with the counseling if he is willing to go with you. Any history of 'issues' in your M? Any previous complaints/problems between you that may be feeding in to this? It is always great if you can post more background info. to help us out. Take care
