We talked and he was mad at his work. We spent 1 hour talking about that and then he told me he cant work on us until he "fixes" work. He doesnt know when but he thinks it will be very soon.
He brought up that incident in the car and said he wonders why there is so much tension bewteen us. He also said he questions if he can give me what I need which he considers not reasonable (meaning passion, surprises, excitement etc) in a long term R. I explained I dont need that ALL the time but I think being this flat when we are 38 years old doesnt leave us many chances to get worse when we get older. I said I think we are too young to give up on excitement and passion. He said "I am this way, I dont give as a person, you are right to want these things but I am not sure I can give them to you".
He said I should go ahead and book vacation and he will join us (?).
He said he wants to come and stay here tomorrow and sleep over and come to the wedding on Sunday morning with us.
He is thinking of leaving the NIGHT job and keeping the morning one. He talked to his boss today, he offered him a raise and to help him find a small second job that will not require his presence, he would be doing it thru the Internet. This solution is the best I could wish for. BUT, I think its not going to happen soon.
He is still so self absorved. What has happened is OVER in his head. Now he only cares about his work, cant think of anything else. I am amazed. We did talk more, politely but didnt come to any conclusions. K
