u are right, if we are promarriage, it is not worth my marriage to me, im just upset.

i sent him an email today, this is what i wrote:

"im extremely unhappy with u choosing to not come to bed.

i get the adjustment period, i get the turmoil, but i do not want a housemate, i want a husband.

will it take time for both of us to adjust and be ok? yes.

but each day u choose to not come to bed, each day that goes by that we have no intimate contact, i feel more and more apart from you and unhappy.

i want a husband, i want your company and im willing to work on this with you.

im willing to understand what u need and im willing to tell u what i need.

but i cant do it apart from you. i need u with me."

what do u think?

i email alot, it seems to be a good way for me to get through to him.