WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 8

[confusedinpa]

I can't imagine it being much worse than this. Aside from the "legal" status of the divorce, we are as final in the divorced as possible

I think limbo is worse as its hard for me to put my life on hold while I wait. When I mean on hold, I've turned down job interest that are out of town, new car, etc

I'm still working on me - getting a life, joined a small group at church, going to the gym regular and restarting my hobbies (cars and home improvement/construction)

I'm also focusing on my kids (baseball, soccer, etc)

I'm just trying to figure out how to rebuild the relationship with my wife. From the conversation from the prior week, it sounded like my wife thought we were going to work on it now. I was waiting for her to say she was ready to start work on it. My therapist said that I should make my wife make it really clear that she wanted to work on it

That's why I invited her to dinner with me and the boys at the park before the baseball game Weds and we're having a late mom day brunch on Sun with the boys. I'm going to see if she wants to have a one on one lunch next week.

Very slow going....