Have you seen this book -- Reinventing your Life by Jeffrey Young??
It might be a great thing to get two copies. It includes various worksheets and so on, quizzes, guidance on how to change. The idea is that it allows you to identify "life traps" that keep you stuck in the same old problems. Entitlement and Abandonment issue might both be problems in your M. It might help you both understand yourselves and each other better, and find real ways to change.
Fun, easy read actually, I really enjoyed it and found it incredibly useful. And the stuff on Entitlement especially is worth the cost $20 for two copies from Amazon.
