ummmm, speaking as a woman...NOT every woman NEEDS an "alpha male." Many of us would prefer a cooperative partnership. And NOT to be told what we need.
That's great that you feel that way. Speaking as a woman doesn't make you a spokesperson for all women.
Please take the time to look into any of the resources I mentioned. Then you'd understand that being 'Alpha Male' does NOT mean 'tell someone what to do'. It mean not sucking up but instead leading and being a decision maker as PART of a relationship.
And to clarify, I mentioned OM and the affair because as David Cunningham (and others) have pointed out many times, women have affairs because they get an Endorphin 'high' because of the 'newness' and the feeling that they are getting something from it they were lacking in their relationship.
Someone posted that Puppy seems to look at her with contempt. There may be some truth to that. I don't know. What I do know is that an Alpha Male would not look at her with anything but protective love and leadership.
It has nothing to do with control, which by the way is a lot of what I see here. Puppy is focused on controlling the situation instead of letting it control itself while he remains solid and on track.
Don't you think that as soon as she sees the 'need' for him to cater to her emotions she runs away? It should be 'Ok, let's do this and this and this' but then it seems to turn in to letters and discussions of vulnerability where he should be listening and validating but not showing weakness.
I think too much emphasis is being placed on Puppy doing all these 'sensitive' things which hasn't worked before. Break the cycle.
