Actually it's not so much pretending that everything is ok, its just that much harder to come back when everyone knows that crap he has done, because now not only does he feel that you are going to judge him but now EVERYONE you told is going to judge him. Before you think that is fine...
Try to imagine how easy it is to come back after admittiting you screwed up and live like that.
That is why you don't talk to everyone you both know about this problem. But...you'll find out.
If you want to punish him...fine...down the road you have just made it harder to resolve this. If you keep telling your friends and family then it makes it even harder and harder for him to come back.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
