IF Dan actually talks to the pastor (and that is a BIG if, to me), there are a few possibilities:
1)He wants to cover his butt, try to figure out what I told the pastor about him and defend himself/justify/whatever (Which would be too funny b/c Pastor already can see through Dan and said he would love to be able to talk with him, find out if he truly has accepted Christ, etc etc. Wish I could be a fly on the wall for that one!)
2)He does want help (not to get back with me necessarily but because he hates his life and is miserable), but didn't want to ask the Pastor. Dan has admitted in some of our most serious talks that he has a really low opinion of himself and that the trucks/cows/tractors are things he buys to impress others and put up a front, to look like he is a success even though he feels like a failure. So I think for Dan to just go to the Pastor on his own would be super hard for him because it would be admitting, to a man that he respects and admires, that he has problems.
But, knowing that I have already talked to the pastor, and that the pastor isn't mad at him, doesn't hate him, but actually said he WANTED to talk to Dan and help him out, maybe that took some of the weight off. Who knows?
And yes I did involve myself by telling Dan that I talked to the Pastor. But even if we get divorced I care about Dan and I wanted him to know that the Pastor had offered to talk to him. What he does with that information will be his choice.
