Thank you for your continued support and guidance FIB, I truly value your judgement. I've been reading FaithfulH's sit from the beginning, and you have some great posts on his saga.
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You are removing yourself from the pain of the moment and also allowing yourself to regroup..rethink....grow and 'return to fight another day' with a better, faster , stronger song.
Words to live by!
This quote is great.
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I realize that we have some difficulties in our relationship and I am desirous to work on these with you because I love you. If you return to the marriage I promise that I will give 100% of my energy to work on this with you and stay committed and dedicated to our marriage forever. If you cannot do this, I will not let my spirit be destroyed by etc.
I have been contemplating writing my W a letter in a similar vein, and have been struggling for the right timing and words. I would like to ask her the following.
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W,
Before you take any steps toward a permanent solution to what may be a temporary problem, I would ask that you consider participating in this workshop with me.
I really believe that we owe it to each other, and to S13 and S12, to try and see if we can work through our issues, as a divorce will have life long impact and repercussions on all of our lives. At the very least, we would know that we exhausted every opportunity to make it work, and could move forward without doubt of whether we should have tried something to help.
I would appreciate a response, even if only to let me know that you read this and considered it.
I know it is pursuit, and that's what I am having trouble with. How do I ask her for one weekend (which may mean she has a change of heart, or may mean that I have a change of heart, I've read of it going both ways), without it coming across as pursuing? Is there a way, or do I need to wait and have that as a last card to play, should she end up filing?
The next retro is the weekend of Sept 11, so I would need to ask her in the next couple of months. If anyone could weigh in on the best approach and timing, I would be most grateful.
