Okay I don't know if that link will work but I tried. It is called "Getting Back Together", but that isn't all it is about. There is a chapter, "What do you Want" or something like that. It has some questions, checklist things to help you recognize your core values and goals. Then you have to honestly decide whether you can be that true version of yourself if you reunite with your spouse.
Again, the focus for me is not on the reuniting part. It is on the moving ahead with my life and remembering who I am part. The book makes some great points too, like: *If the goal just becomes getting back together you are working on the wrong goal, the problems will not be solved just by getting back together
*The majority of couples surveyed, who reconciled, stated the #1 thing they would do differently was that they would have stayed separated LONGER to make sure they had discussed/ironed out major points of conflict before jumping into a relationship again
*The time and distance given by a separation are often ESSENTIAL for a couple if they have any hope of reconciling down the road. B/C they are often 'trapped' in a repeating cycle of 'trying' and failing. They need breathing room instead of lather, rinse, repeat.
