Ammo, you're getting good advice. Stay quiet until you speak to the lawyer. Stay focused on what is best for your daughter and let your wife act like an adult. She has to make some tough choices. It will get worse. But if you stay focused on the daughter's best interest and in not harming your wife through your actions, you'll maintain your daughter's best interest, maintain your integrity and sanity, and you'll put the work where it belongs - on your wife. She has to do this. You cannot make her choices nor can you make her change her mind. Only she can.
Sad. It really is. But it gets better. It spins and twists, but it gets better and better.
AJ
P.S. it gets dark and low, but the best is yet to come. Look for the best so you don't miss it when it comes.
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."