It's automatic when you feel it

[Bagheera]

Cinco,

Your emotional mood swings always make me smile, because I can identify with them. I tend to do the same thing if I'm not careful: going from anger and despair on one day, thinking that the relationship is doomed and will never work; to that wonderful, after-sex, "afterglow" bliss on the next day, with everything right in the world and the relationship...strangers smile at you and songbirds happily perch on your shoulder on the way in to work...

If your wife is truly a Type 6, then her biggest need from you will be security and stability. So if you want her to continue meeting your Type 7 needs for connection, intimacy, and shared experiences, then you have to give her the solid, secure, platform from which to do that. I can identify here, also being married to a 6, and being a somewhat volatile, moody Type 4 (I mistyped myself earlier as a 3, over on my thread).

So enjoy your afterglow, but also recognize that it is fleeting -- the hard work that you've taken on in rebuilding your relationship continues.

Alright, I'll stop raining on your parade now.

-- B.