No Mat, It's not me that needs the clarification. No contact means no communication what so ever and H knows that he just chooses to keep talking to her when he can get info or opinion somewhere else.
I gave him the chance to tell me both times and he chose not to.

Need to decide what im'e going to do but im"e not going down the same cheeseless tunnel again.Just have to get my thoughts in order and look at this through H's eyes before i do any thing.


You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez