Newly separated...spouse left, 4th thread

[antlers]

I've had the kids for 3 days, they'll go back tonight. It's been pretty good. My house has become the social hub of the neighborhood kids. They all hang out down here while playing with my kids. Our kids are enjoying it a lot.

I've thought a lot about the things my father-in-law said to me...much of the time there is so much anger on her part, cursing at me and talking down to me...and I honestly put forth effort to have compassion for her during these times. I am leaving her alone. I haven't called since April 30th, and I've only texted in response to her texts to me about the kids...and my responses are short and to the point. I'm only gonna show kindness and compassion...regardless.

I wish there was another way...but there's not. It hurts and it's hard...but I have to let go and turn her loose. I don't know what's gonna happen, but she did have many years of hurt. If there's ever gonna be any hope of reconciliation, it'll be up to her. I'm not gonna 'pressure' or 'force the issue'.

I'm gonna be the best father I can be, and continue to grow. I am so much a better person now than I used to be...I just wish it hadn't taken something like this to get me to pull my head out of my a$$.

My father-in-law says he loves me and continues to pray for us. That means a lot to me.

I learn a lot from reading other people's threads too, and the advice they are given from our sages here, and from others who are still suffering.

God bless.


antlers